Exquisite Possibility


Do you ever have a thought that goes something like this:

“If A was only B, then I’d be so (happy/successful/badass in love with life).”


“A is so (pointless/boring/stupid)! Oh when am I going to finally (get to do/have) B (in/with my life)??”

All too often I fall (or sometimes it’s a self-induced keel-over) into the trap of the ‘EXTRAORDINARY’. It’s the idea that, unless it begins and ends with fireworks, it’s just not worth it.

Okay, so maybe it’s not like I’m always consciously rejecting everything that doesn’t bling. For me, a star-seeking mentality is often unconscious.

But that can be even more dangerous.

Because it can cause me to miss out on what’s happening all around me. Without my even knowing it. And as I pine away for some mental conception of the spectacular, I fail to show up in life.

Didn’t someone say at some point that it is during your ordinary moments that the exquisite is possible?

Don’t get me wrong, I am all in favor of dreaming big and getting clear on taking positive direction. It is crucial to have a big picture sense of where you are and where you want to go. But at least for me, it’s all too easy to quarantine the bulk of my daily activities in a box labeled ‘mundane’, ‘irrelevant’, or ‘WTF’.

My experience has also showed me that, with the right kind of creative practice, it is always possible to recognize the exquisite. I have witnessed miraculous shifts in myself and in my students. And more often than not, these changes begin in small, subtle ways.

Beyond the realm of mind – where our attention swings from thought to thought like a monkey in search of riper banana – is an aspect of ourselves that many wisdom traditions call ‘the witness’.

The witness is that essential part of you seated at the heart of perception. It is a place of pure compassion, concerned with simply holding space for things to be as they are. Through tapping into this kind of gentle power, everything is achieved effortlessly.


In other words, your witness is your source for ‘effortless effort’.

Sometimes, however, it takes an epic leap to move forward on our path. This Thursday, I am taking the plunge – a three week journey to India to co-lead a Soul Culture Yoga retreat (come join us to Costa Rica!) with my wife Jaishree. And then to stay and soak in the transcendental mellows of the yoga of love.

I’ll see you on the other side 🙂

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